The plays WELL before the fore-play.
- Crys_j_cole
- Jan 16, 2019
- 2 min read
Many times, my friends and I, well let me speak for myself, I find that sometimes its hard for me to get to past the initial texting stage of a newly budding relationship. I lose focus. Quickly, sometimes I just feel like.. Man, EFF dis. Nah but for real...
Inconsistent text behavior is ONE of the biggest reason some relationships never start. (I've been guilty of this too, but if I'm inconsistent, Its typically because of a few things.) Here are my TOP 3.
NO PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. (OOF! slaps hand to fore-head) I REALLY try not to give my number to people I don't like/not attracted to, but sometimes they make their way into my land of the lost collection. I found myself in a string of "dealings" with folks I really wasn't attracted to, and as soon as they mess up I think to myself. (this dude ain't even CUTE and he got the nerve to be blah blah blah...... I digress... lol) I have gotten really good at stopping it before it starts.
This other guy is more interesting... I mean that's what dating is all about right? You talk to multiple people until someone starts to stand out, and then the others become less important. (Or you could do like one of my ex's and talk to and smash all of them just keep them in a rotation like a lazy-susan while he is talking to and in a committed relationship with me. oh, did i just say that? ah ok.. moving on...)
I see RED FLAGS. (Insecure, Abusive characteristics, Rude, or generally unhappy.) I believe we are all out here looking for things in people that we feel we can connect with. (and yeah deal with) I honestly don't go on any dates thinking "This is it! Girl. STOP. and BYE! lol. I do look for things that I can and CAN'T deal with, yeah you can't tell a whole lot from a first date, BUT some things pop out at you. As I've gotten more mature, I can see it faster than when I was younger. We typically ignore the things we don’t like and just keep hanging out with folks. I can admit that physical attributes can really hinder my best judgement.
Man I'm a sucka for a good looking man, TALLER than me with that Quarter back , wide receiver style body, a man that knows his way around a gym - nah I don't want him to be a self absorbed fitness freak, but yeah, I like to see those abs poking a little bit... aight, I digress..
Okay focus Crys, If there is something about me that a dude doesn't like, I hope he just stops talking to me and communicates that. (Hell, I'll be alright, lol) Because forever is a LONG time, and we honestly owe it to each other as adults to keep it real.
Getting past that initial "Texting" phase is tough these days. If we make it past a week of texting, were actually getting somewhere, SAD but TRUE! LMK what you think.
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