Passive Agressive versus “Not wanting to curse your A$$ out.”

Dictionary result for passive-aggressive: adjective of or denoting a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation, as in procrastinating, pouting, or misplacing important materials.

Hey there! I decided to write about this because I’ve heard people say a lot of times that people are passive aggressive. Basically they’re upset about something they won’t confront the person about whatever it is that’s bothering them. I have been told that I’ve been passive aggressive before.

As I’m being told this, I find myself taking the time to really look at myself and see what is it that I’m doing that exhibits this type of behavior. I am BY NO MEANS PASSIVE AGRESSIVE. All in all what I truly think is, I’m just really tired of trying to explain to people how they need to treat me. Most of the time, It’s not the random strangers who I have to explain this to, it’s mostly the people closest to me. You know, the people I have decided to be friends with, cordial with, my family and sometimes my Co-workers.

Because I look at it like this, either their really REALLY stupid or they just really don’t give a fuck about me. That’s all I can seem to come up with to rationalize the type of things they say/do at times. Then when you try and express yourself they say “Oh that’ not what i meant.” That can only happen so many times, then you have to say to yourself, in your inner voice, very calmly, “ok fuck this person.” Lol.

Some people don’t even know they ”fcuked.”

I guess this is what it all boils down to in a nut shell. It’s not passive aggressive behavior. Its me making a personal choice to protect my space. Protect my light, and the energy around me. Because in this, you also find that you have to do this for others as well. Like on the “flip-side.” Some people will continuously get mad at you. No matter what you do or say, they will find SOMETHING wrong with you/the situation. You know that saying. Meet people where they are???? It holds true in so many things.

Typically these people haven’t reached the place of protecting their space so they keep coming around and blaming everything on you. It’s ok if you decide that a person isn’t a good mix for you. (There are waaaaaayyyyy too many people in the world to stay on this too long) some people don’t know how to do that just yet. So you? My friend are responsible for handling this on your own. (Jealousy, Envy, and individual personal journeys can effect this behavior as well, either way... protect yourself.)

Last note, I took some time and read this book called Boundaries, by Dr. Henry Cloud, and Dr. John Townsend.

It was in the book that it’s saying is that sometimes we get upset for the way that people treat us and we haven’t properly vetted them on how to treat us. Or you fall into the category like me and say “People should just Know! Or I even find myself saying, I would NEVER say or do that to someone!” Chile bye. lol! Now, I know that may not make sense but sometimes you get upset with people and they have no idea that what you did what they did to you upset you.

So in order for us to protect ourselves we have to truly take time to let people know what’s OK and what’s not OK. It doesn’t have to be in an angry way, but we can Develop a skill known as far as having great communication. If you are upset sometimes it’s best to take a moment to step away think about the way you feel and truly focus on the root of the problem. Then go back to the person at a later time and express yourself, and let them know “I respect your feelings but when you did this it made me feel this way.” Only if you care....but, if youre sick of their shit, and don’t want to salvage the relationship then Don’t waste your time.... more than likely, you will find yourself just tolerating them... Truth is, sometimes you’re just better Off without them, and they’re sometimes better off without you too.

Protect your light.

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